Seriously, You Really Are Not That Bad!

Joe writes: Tom. can you please reiterate to the fellas the importance of not flooding women with compliments? and the possible outcome if a guy does so. As i follow this rule, i see that it works cause this hot chick im banging is constantly fishing for compliments while guys all around her do nothing but compliment her when she is out at bars or clubs. she is always working on her appearance (clothes,hair and makeup changes) to get me to compliment on these changes.

I am proud of you, Joe, for being an attentive student. Joe is right: complimenting a woman has the opposite effect of what you were hoping for, that is, it makes her believe that she can do better than you.

Your first choice in a woman is the hottest possible woman you can get with the lowest possible self-esteem. This is not the problem that you think it could be because we are not talking about a woman you will marry or live with. We are talking about a woman you will bang.

The hottest chicks generally have the lowest self esteem and are therefore the easiest to get. Not only should your method include finding chicks with low self-esteem. You should be finding ways to chip away at a woman's self-esteem until it's so low, she'll even have sex with someone like you. This means that, rather than showering a woman with compliments, you should say as little as possible, or perhaps use some backhanded compliments which are comments that appear to be compliments, but which are actually digs. Example: "I don't care what anyone says...I like women like you." This keeps her ego and self-esteem in check. She will not be able to figure out why she feels so lousy about herself and she may feel she has to sleep with you just to prove that she's really great. Of course, this will never work for her because she will feel worse after she realizes you have pilfered the poonanny, but by the time she has figured this out, you will have moved on to the next victim.

Never tell her she looks great...that she's hot...that you've "never been with" a girl like her...that you love her eyes (or any other body part). Tell her instead as little as you can. Don't tell her how you feel or how she makes you feel. Let her blab and keep the conversation brief as you can (women love mysterious men...stop with the diarrhea of the mouth). Never say what you think of her outfit or, God forbid, her accessories such as handbags, etc.  The more she does to try to get your compliments, the less you should say about it. The other guys will appear to be falling all over themselves to compliment her and will therefore look more desperate than you.