

HER Self-Esteem? What About YOUR Self-Esteem?
The "War of the Sexes" is largely a war of self-esteem. Whoever has the most self-esteem wins the tug-of-war of dating.
The problems you must surmount when you meet a new prospect include situations when you don't feel worthy of talking to a hot chick, especially if she has superior self-esteem and proceeds to break yours down.
Never forget your goal when you meet a chick. It's not to chit-chat or to plan on seeing a movie. It's not to tell her honestly about your imperfections or failures with women or to be a sensitive werewolf. It's to get laid. And that means that some of you sensitive types have to learn to be more the predator. This means cutting down her self-esteem in any number of ways:
- Don't initiate the conversation. When possible, appear to be otherwise engaged as if you are waiting for a friend to show up at the bar. Avoid awkward opening lines and buying drinks for chicks you don't know yet.
- Don't tell women they are beautiful or that you like anything about the way they look i.e. hair, clothing, shoes, etc. Remember that she is trying to impress you with these things; you should not be trying to impress her. To maintain the upper hand, you must never let her think that she's hot. The minute you give in on this, she'll think, "Why am I wasting time with this dweeb? I can do much better!" Try to throw her off her game by letting her believe that you can do better and that you regularly do.
- Never forget that the hottest chicks generally have the lowest self-esteem. This is because chicks who look perfect know their own imperfections and focus on them all the time as in thinking they're a pound overweight or that one breast hangs a little lower than the other (one breast always hangs a little lower than the other!).
- Don't let your own low self-esteem convince you that hot chicks are nothing but impossible-to-get bitches or cunts. Many hot chicks wil tell you that guys are afraid to approach them and that, more often than not, they have less of a social life than you would believe. And, since they are already hard on themselves, you don't want to do anything to bolster their self-esteem in any way.
- When a hot chick does talk to you, you want to appear mysterious, distracted, maybe even bored. Never let on that you are hot for her.
- Remember that this is war. The minute a chick figures out that you feel out of your league or nervous...the minute she thinks she's hotter than what you usually get...she will move on or simply string you along. The key is to get her to believe that she is lucky to be talking to you.
Your Professor understands that years of pussifying by society or your divorced mom may make it hard for you to believe that these things are true and that it is therefore hard for you to act that way. Remember that women don't want to be "respected" by a prospective lover...they want to be "taken." Now go out and take what's yours.
Then, crumple it up and toss it in the trash like a used Kleenex.











Comments
The Girl in the room
I just want to say thank you so much for all that you say on your blog and shows. As a female, we PINE to be a fly on the wall in these sort of conversations. Sometimes what you say is hard to hear, but it's GOLDEN! And what women don't seem to get, is that by ACCEPTING the way men think...and ASPIRE to behave...it takes all the guess work out of...so much. Thank you, thank you emphatically for just spelling things out. I LOVE your advice and Tom you would be AMAZED (perhaps) at well your advice works for women too!
Awesome
This is a great public service your doing tom and all us guys appreciate it. I have seen this time and time again in my life. Most recent example, I was flying solo in a latin club a few weeks ago and guys were hollering at this hot south american chick left and right. This chick was stacked with EE size tits and a slim waist. I ignored her and sipped on my drink, then she approached me and asked me to dance. I said I was taking a break and she was more intrigued. Not wanting to lose face in front of her friend, she was determined to get me on the dance floor. I couldnt tell she wasn't used to the rejection and continually begged me to dance with her. I obliged her when "I" decided to. Afterward, the chick wouldn't leave my side. She followed me around till closing time and into the parking lot. Then she dropped her friend off and followed me back 2 my place where I twisted her body like a pretzel all night long. Moral of the story: Tom knows what he's talking bout. Good to have you back,man!
Since I was 15...
This is the God's honest truth about women. I had one lady who, as a girl (at 15) treated me like crap. I would call her and she would tell me how she liked this guy who was walking all over her. I finally figured it out. She wanted what she couldn't have, like most women. I got sick of it and told her not to call me anymore. She started calling me regularly and I would listen for a minute, tell her I USED TO BE INTERESTED and just hang up on her. Eventually, that led to a lifelong situation where she was on me like a bad suit. To this day, I remember her, but she moved away when I was about 43 and I don't know what happened to her but she used to follow me around for about twenty five years. I have been married and divorced twice to women nicer looking than her and until I was forty, she was still writing me and asking for me at MY MOM's HOUSE, if you can imagine. It becomes a game of playing hard to get and she has to know that she is now having to qualify on YOUR terms. At times you will feel cruel doing it, but if you don't walk two paces ahead, she doesn't feel the need to follow.
best advice ever!
Not even my real dad can give me this kinda advice. Gotta turn to a Man for this kinda things.
Awesome!
Been waiting for more tips like this! You're the man Dad!
lool To the last line! Great
lool To the last line!
Great article
Excellent advice!
Except I like to use Kleenexes a couple times before throwing them away.... =D